Couples choose to end their unions for a variety of reasons. Sometimes a single event can trigger the need for separation, while oftentimes a myriad of factors contribute to a decision to divorce. For most couples, the decision to separate from each other is a difficult one. If you are considering divorce, it might benefit you to speak with a professional in order to sort through your thoughts and feelings with the help of an objective and neutral third party. However, there are some key considerations you may wish to contemplate on your own while waiting to speak with someone about your decision-making process.

First, it is important to understand that the decision to divorce or not to divorce is ultimately up to you and your spouse. Some people may find it necessary to stay together until their children are grown, while others sincerely believe that divorce will benefit their children more than living in a tense household will. Whatever decision you and your spouse make about whether to divorce or not should be yours and yours alone. Others may judge you, but it is ultimately your family’s lives that you must focus on.

Second, it is important to consider what you and your spouse truly want out of life. Each person is only given a single life in which to make decisions. For example, if you truly want children and your spouse does not, only you can answer the question of whether you are willing to live a life without them. Focusing on your sincere desires and needs can help guide you to the right decision for you.

Finally, understand that divorce will affect your financial situation but usually not so dramatically that finances alone should dictate your decision to leave or stay. If you have questions about the financial consequences of a potential divorce, do not hesitate to reach out to an experienced attorney who can help to advise you.

Source: Huffington Post, “Why Women Stay in Bad Marriages,” Oct. 14, 2013.